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If you’ve ever taken a personal development course or read a leadership book, you may have said these exact words!

Why is it that personal development trainings and leadership books are geared towards adults when the core belief systems which shape your life, are developed during your earliest years?

Most of us were never taught these critical skills. Instead, we were left to learn it on our own – usually after graduating from high school or college – if we were lucky enough to find it at all! By that time, limiting beliefs and old habits were deeply ingrained and much more challenging to uncover and break through.

But, you weren’t born with limiting beliefs about what was possible for yourself and neither were your children. In fact, it was quite the opposite.

Have you ever watched young children at play?

A 4 year old girl playing princess? She dresses up and twirls around the room. “I’m the ‘Belle of the ball’. The most beautiful princess in the land. I’m going to sweep the prince off of his feet!”

 

Or a 4 year old boy playing superhero? “I’m Superman. The strongest, bestest super hero in the land. I’m going to catch the bad guys and save the world!”
The 4 year old girl doesn’t look in the mirror and say, “Does this dress make me look fat? What will the other girls think? I wonder if he’ll like me.”  
 
The little boy doesn’t look in the mirror and say, “Man, I need to work out! That bad guy is scary, what if he’s too strong? Maybe I’ll try
tomorrow.” 

NO! They are on top of the world. Anything is possible! 

But, if you look at these same children at the age of twelve. Which end of the spectrum are they more likely to be on – the “I’m the greatest and I’ll conquer the world” side, or the “am I good enough…what will everyone think?” side. 

 

By the age of 7 or 8, many children have already started comparing themselves to other children. 

Whereas several years earlier they felt they could do almost anything; slowly fear, self-doubt, and judgment often creep into their lives. As a result, children may develop limiting beliefs about themselves, their lives, and how the world works. 

Many parents see this shift but don’t know what to do about it. 

  You can tell your children they are “great”, but that’s not enough. 

No matter how much you love your children or how much time you spend with them… 

….you can’t give them self-confidence… 

….you can’t give them self-esteem… 

….you can’t give them success…. 

  But what you can do is teach them to develop it in themselves! 

  Stay tuned to learn how…. 

Please leave your comments below! 

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