Why Miss M’s Mum was Worried
Miss M is a sweet and well-behaved young girl of 5-1/2, who was due to start big school in 6 weeks.
Her mum was worried because Miss M had recently refused to go up and collect her pre-school graduation certificate at a graduation ceremony.
She was concerned about Miss M’s lack of confidence in that situation, and how she was going to go with starting a new school.
How “Confident Kids” from WISDOM Coaching could Help
WISDOM Coach® Karen recommended a Confident Kids coaching package that would teach Miss M:
- How her mind works
- Why she was afraid when doing something new
- How to create courage and try new things, and ultimately
- How to develop an “I can” mindset.
The Confident Kids coaching package is from the Adventures in Wisdom Life Coaching for Kids Curriculum, that uses stories and activities to teach mindset skills to kids (ideally 6-12 years old).
Since 2013, Adventures in Wisdom has certified many hundreds of WISDOM Coaches in over 40 countries, who are transforming the lives of kid and families around the world.
NOTE: (Be sure to check WISDOM Coach Karen’s video at the bottom of the page where she shares Miss M’s victories and what it was like to get such incredible results with her first coaching client.)
About the Coaching Sessions
Prior to starting, Coach Karen recommended that Miss M get a “Victory Board” (bulletin board) where she could post her current victories (like her pre-school certificate and dance recital medal) and have a place to put the new victories she would be having.
Session 1: Self-Confidence – “Canville and Cantville – a Tale of Two Towns”
In her first session, Miss M learned what self-confidence is. She and Coach Karen read the story, “Canville and Cantville – a Tale of Two Towns”, and built Canville and Cantville during the story.
She learned about her comfort zone, and that her dreams and goals would live outside her comfort zone. Learning to stretch outside of her comfort zone is the way to build courage and achieve her goals.
We did an activity where she practiced stepping out of her comfort zone (the green tinsel circle) to reach her goal – the gold trophy (next to the green arrow).
Miss M decided a stretch goal for her would be to swim in the ocean. She was willing to swim in a swimming pool, but would not swim in the ocean.
At the end of the session, Miss M shared what she learned with her mum. Her mum learned to ask Miss M the question, “What would this look like if you were in Canville?” if Miss M indicated she couldn’t do something.
Session 2 – How Your Mind Shapes Your World (Conscious and Subconscious Mind) – “Who’s Flying Your Plane?”
In her second session, Miss M learned about the conscious and subconscious mind. We read the story, “Who’s Flying Your Plane” and built a paper plane that would fly with supportive beliefs and crash when loaded down with limiting beliefs. Miss M learned about the “grungies” and how grungy feelings are a sign that a limiting belief or dragon thought was there.
After her second session, Miss M’s mum shared that Miss M had had a very difficult experience that morning. She had attended a new, intensive swimming lesson, where the teacher was new, the kids were new, and there was noise and chaos everywhere. So despite having a lot of experience with swimming lessons in the past, Miss M got very upset and refused to swim. On the way home, her mum reminded her about Canville, which helped calm Miss M down.
Learning of this incident, WISDOM Coach® Karen gave Miss M a sneak peek at the upcoming lesson in coaching session 3 which would be about neural pathways and why we feel nervous when doing something new.
Coach Karen explained that the reason Miss M got upset at the new swimming lesson was because her brain had no neural pathways about what was going to happen, so she got upset. But now, she not only has neural pathways from past swimming lessons, but also, she now has new neural pathways about what this new lesson would look like, sound like, and be like.
Coach Karen gave Miss M a sparkly wand and suggested Miss M touch her mind with her wand, or use her finger as a wand, to remember that she has the pathways now for swimming lessons.
The next day, mum reported that not only did Miss M swim, but she participated in everything with a smile on her face! (See photo with Miss M holding her wand). This photo went on her Victory Board!
Session 3 – Neural Pathways – “Your Pathway to Success”
In the third coaching session, WISDOM Coach® Karen shared the story, “Your Pathway to Success” where Miss M learned more about neural pathways and things she could do to prepare for new situations before she does them.
She learned about two tools – practicing and visualization – and the brain science behind why these tools work. We discussed how her new school was helping her build neural pathways for her first day of school by letting her get her uniform early to wear, visiting a classroom, and meeting teachers.
Coach Karen invited Miss M’s mum and sister to this coaching session as well, so that the whole family would know this important skill.
Session 4 – Self-talk “Choosing Your BFF (Best Friend Forever)”
In session four, Miss M learned about self-talk – how to identify and shift negative self-talk and how to proactively create positive self-talk. Self-talk is one of the most important skills that kids can learn, because it underlies so many other skills and is the key to self-esteem, self-confidence, resilience, goal setting, and more.
We read the story, “Choosing Your BFF (Best Friend Forever)”, where Miss M met Trudy the Tortoise and her friends, Positive Pam and Negative Nicki. Miss M learned that Positive Pam and Negative Nicki live in her own mind at that she could choose to listen to Positive Pam and be her own BFF.
We decorated mirrors and she created a mirror mantra to say to herself whenever she sees her reflection. (This was her favorite activity of all!).
It was after this session that mum shared why Miss M was afraid of swimming in the ocean. She had been in her mother’s arms when her mother had been badly dumped by a wave. So, even though Miss M was OK, she saw her mum severely shaken. So, we agreed not to push Miss M on swimming in the ocean.
Session 5 – Managing Fear and the 5 Steps for Moving through Fear – “Slaying Dragons”
Session 5 was about Managing Fear and the 5 Steps for Moving Through Fear. We read the story, “Slaying Dragons”, where she learned about the different dragons of Fear and how to slay them. But, rather than “slay” dragons, Coach Karen altered the story to say we transformed the three dragons of fear into three empowered dragons.
She and mum also learned the 5 Steps for Moving Through Fear.
Result – Miss M’s Victories!
The first victory for Miss M was to conquer her fear of her new intensive swimming lessons and participate every day for the rest of the week.
Miss M was so proud of herself and her mum said,
A few days after completing the complete Confident Kids coaching program, Miss M proudly shared that she had swum in the ocean! She had put her whole body in the water and had seen fish. She was so excited!
And on the first day of school, she played happily before school started. She had a quiet tear when saying goodbye to mum, but she walked into school with her teacher. And she had a happy first day!
What WISDOM Coach Karen had to Say!
Immediately after learning that Miss M had swum in the ocean, WISDOM Coach Karen filmed a video to share in the WISDOM Coach private Facebook Group.
Here’s what she had to say about this girl’s success and what it was like to get such an incredible result with her first coaching client:
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